Why Stress Is A Beauty Buster

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Stress- We all have it but some of us deal with it better than others.  If you look at any recent United States President from their first day in office until their last, you will see that all aged appreciably in only four years. Why? Because carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders took its toll on their appearance.  Even if you’re just an everyday lady boss or Mom trying to make her way in the world, stress can cause you to age before your time. Here’s how and why according to New York Neuropsychologist Dr. Sanam Hafeez.

 

Dr. Hafeez says that, “Aside from the unattractive scowl that stress brings to the face, it creates direct physiological changes. Stress is defined as the reaction of the body to a stressor or stimulus that causes stress. Stress can be acute, which affects the body in the short term, or chronic, affecting the body in the long term. Synonyms for stress include anxiety, nervousness, apprehensiveness, impatience, fear and restlessness.”

Dr. Hafeez explains that, “Stress that is not controlled most certainly affects the body’s physical characteristics or beauty. It affects skin, hair, fingernails, digestion and sleep patterns. Stress-induced conditions include hair loss, heart disease, obesity, obsessive-compulsive disorder, sexual dysfunction, tooth and gum disease and ulcers or indigestion.”

Some Common Symptoms of Stress Induced Beauty Busters

Under-Eye Bags: Tomorrow’s to-do list can weigh on your mind, keeping you from getting enough beauty sleep. This can cause fluid to pool below your lower eyelid area, and what you end up with is a puffy mess in the a.m. Stomach sleepers, bad news: You can expect the puffiness of your under-eye bags to be even worse because of gravity.

 

Flushed Face: “When you’re stressed, you breathe in short, shallow breaths and can even find yourself holding your breath for periods of time, which can lead to flushing and redness,”  says Dr. Hafeez.

 

Hair loss: Stress can trigger alopecia areata, which causes patches of baldness anywhere on the body, including on your head. Stress can also trigger a tick where you pick at head hairs out of bad habit. This condition is called trichotillomania. Usually, this hair can grow back, but it doesn’t even have to fall out in the first place: Pay close attention to your own habitual responses to daily stress, to avoid similar sparseness.

 

Gray Hair: Hair can also age prematurely due to stress. If you are genetically predisposed to have premature gray hair, stress will further decrease your production of melanin, easily increasing the number of gray or white hairs. By increasing your consumption of biotin, protein, and vitamin E you can reduce these negative effects to keep your hair strong and youthful.

 

Pimples: Stress alters your hormones. It increases cortisol production, which in turn increases the oil production in your skin. All of this leads to greater odds of clogged pores. Stress can also multiply the number of acne-causing bacteria in the body, which might require a high-dose antibiotic prescription from your dermatologist.

 

Mini Menopause: Dr. Hafeez says this isn’t proven, but some believe increased levels of the stress hormone cortisol can cause a dip in estrogen that’s similar to the decrease during menopause. Less estrogen means less collagen production which can leave your skin dull and dry.

 

Wrinkles: Anxiety, crying, feeling down and a lack of sleep can cause deeper lines around the eyes, forehead, eye area and mouth.

 

Dark Circles:-Stress can break the fragile capillaries under your eyes, leaving you with under-eye rings and a tired appearance. 

 

Lines on the fingernails: The appearance of vertical lines on your fingernails is fairly common and is related to both the natural aging process and nutritional deficiencies. But when they extend from the cuticle to the tip of the nail, it’s a clear sign that your stress is having an effect on the body.

 

Stress and Weight Gain: Most of us become overeaters when we’re feeling a lot of pressure. This happens thanks to your fight-or-flight response, a.k.a. survival mode — once your body reaches a certain stress level, it does what it feels it needs to. In most cases, that means overeat. Why? “Because your body thinks you’ve used calories to deal with your stress, even though you haven’t, says Dr. Hafeez.  She adds, “As a result, it thinks you need to replenish those calories, even though you don’t.”  Levels of “the stress hormone,” cortisol, rise during tension-filled times. This can turn your overeating into a habit. Because increased levels of the hormone also help cause higher insulin levels, your blood sugar drops and you crave sugary, fatty foods.

 

How Can We Mitigate Stress ?

Countless books and articles have been written about dealing with stress. Dr. Hafeez explains that, “The first step is recognition. To help deal with your stress, write down a list of what you are most worried about before any event, or what chronically causes worry in your life. Identifying your stressors is the first step in managing them. If you are chronically late or find that it hard to get organized, figure out what you do that makes you late or disorganized. Write it down and acknowledge it. Then you can come up with a plan to preemptively tackle what may drive you and your loved ones into a stressed-out situation.” Another trick in dealing with stress is plain old reasoning and the realization that you cannot control everything. Sometimes we trap ourselves into worrying about things that we have no control over, and recognition of that fact can reduce stress immeasurably.

 

About the Doctor:

Dr. Sanam Hafeez PsyD is a NYC based licensed clinical psychologist, teaching faculty member at the prestigious Columbia University Teacher’s College and the founder and Clinical Director of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological Services, P.C. a neuropsychological, developmental and educational center in Manhattan and Queens. 

 

Thankful For Women & Girls Campaign Comes To South Florida

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IMG_6242The air in Atria Senior Living buzzed with compliments that the residents exchanged with one another. The smiles and excitement were personally intoxicating for me. Thankful, which is a lifestyle brand founded on the principle of practicing gratitude, took over the assisted living facility to host a private event for their ‘Thankful for Women & Girls campaign.’ Atria residents were the honored guests of a private tea party. But before the live Frank Sinatra performances and tea sandwiches, guests were also invited to receive a makeover from GlamSquad courtesy of Becca Cosmetics.
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“We want to give them a beautiful experience. These women are trailblazers. They have paved the way for us to live the lives we live today,” the founder of Thankful, Kim McDonnell, said.
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Becca Cosmetics displays surrounded the residents who opted to be fully pampered for the day. Even the star palette for the event (Becca’s ‘Be a light ‘ palette) had encouraging mantras such as “Be Fearless,” written across the palette’s mirror.
“Every woman has an inner beauty and inner glow. The ‘Be a Light’ palette helps people ignite their inner and outer glow,” Justine Dunton-Rose, Becca’s Senior Manager of Influencer Relations, said.
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Being Bipolar and How I Got My Groove Back

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“You have bipolar disorder.”

My heart sank. My thoughts raced. What was going to happen next? Would I ever get better? Why did these four words seem so daunting and scary, all at the same time? Would I always be ‘the girl with the mental disorder?’

All thoughts that raced through my head around September of 2008 when my doctor’s intake led to these results.

I knew something was wrong when my credit card debt racked up, my glass of wine became bottles, my stress about my upcoming wedding led me to barely enjoy the planning, my fights and arguments with friends became unsolvable (in my head), my job at The Miami Herald too stressful, my highs were way high, my lows became tear-stained evenings crying over everything, my “Sex and the City” late night watching binges led to 5 a.m. bed times and my loneliness seemed heightened, even with a million friends around me. I had an answer. Something was wrong.

I knew it now, and I was the more powerful for it.

I am sharing my story because I still get these feelings and make the same mistakes, but they are thankfully more contained thanks to 5 mg of Abilify, a supportive husband and group of friends that believe in me. But you want to know what the hardest part of it all has been?

Believing in myself.

Let’s continue this story by saying, I am considered successful. People say they love me. I am now a high school teacher and professor, leaving behind a very stressful journalism career only to freelance on the side when my soul needs to create the written word…I miss journalism, but not the deadlines every day. Not the constant parties and social events where people said “they were friends,” which only would lead to me missing them when they stopped calling, triggering a panic/manic episode.

I love writing, I love some of the friends I made through that career, but when you are clutching your 5th vodka soda at a Grey Goose event to self-medicate thanks to the crowd, you need a moment and the recovery, mentally, takes days.

You could say believing in myself is hard, but I believed in myself enough to realize…enough is enough. I wanted to be happy, inside the darkness of my mind and the struggles of my insecurities.

You could say my children/students saved me. I am not yet a mother, but after the layoffs of 2008/9 at The Miami Herald, I found my calling, standing in a classroom at Florida International University teaching masters degree students the joys of writing. The passion of journalism. Seeing them believe in me, 26 years-old, as I stood in front of that classroom shaking my first day, brought me some light. Having them sing me happy birthday that October 2009 with chocolate cake and telling me they “got it” and “loved my class” made me realize I had a calling. I was hooked…I felt at peace.

Then, I decided to continue this route, entering classrooms in Miami-Dade College, lecturing at Florida Atlantic University, all while working stints as an editor at Where Magazine, where I cut back on events, and later in 2015 at Bauer Xcel Media, as a senior web editor for J-14 Magazine, working from home. It seemed like a dream job.

Only problem is, despite doctor visits and monitoring, my demons, my bipolar cloud, will always be there. Loneliness working from home triggered it. I was happiest in the classroom. Breaking into tears, I knew I needed to make a change.

That’s when I realized…I am successful, but to what cost? What success did I want for myself? I wanted to make a change, have better hours, change lives…I wanted to be a high school teacher as well as continue my college teaching career.

Scared, I applied. I got the job. Boca Raton Community High School is now home. I am going on my 4th year as a teacher there and it was like putting myself back through school, learning the ropes, making new friends, going through the new teacher program, taking exams and finally, this year, being fully certified as Florida Department of Education teacher.

And then there’s the kids. My 10th graders.

You could say they make me smile. You could say they saved me. But in the end, I saved myself and I followed my dreams and realized despite a disability I can, too, live a full life and focus on my goals.

Fast forward. It is almost August 2018. I am writing this on a break as I teach international students at ISSOS (International Summer School of Scotland) at Yale University. I also still write. My husband is still around, and so is my cat, Luna. I have some good friends and family. I am still here.

I share my story because I have my days. I go dark. I think about my mistakes. Student loan debt. Credit Card debt. Lost friends, lost chances…what if. “You are ugly, you are not smart enough, you are not doing enough, you are not working hard enough, you should NOT BE IN THIS WORLD ANYMORE.”

All of this happens in a bad, low episode.

Then comes the high…and I am magic. All is beautiful. I am loved. I am pretty, smart and talented. I am a rock star.

And guess what I do?

I hang on to that moment and I tell my bipolar disorder thank you.

I will hang on to the positive. I am still here. I am enough.

And then I start my day all over again, realizing this disease will not go away. But, I can fight it. And, my dear readers, you can as well if you’re ever diagnosed with any disability or mental disease.

You, too, are enough.

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Calling all artists! Artisan Series is accepting submissions

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The BOMBAY SAPPHIRE Artisan Series, in partnership with ARTSY, is a search to discover the next big name in visual arts. Submit your artwork today for the chance to showcase your work at SCOPE Miami Beach. The Grand Prize winner will receive a cash stipend and collaborate with ARTSY to create a public installation in New York City Summer 2019.

The Second Place Winner and People’s Choice Winner will each receive a cash stipend to ceate a solo exhibit at a gallery in their region. For more information visit www.bombaysapphire.com.

 

Which conditioner is right for your hair type?

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When it comes to hair treatments the conditioner we choose can really impact not only how our hair holds a style but it’s overall health and appearance. Most people feel overwhelmed by the number of conditioners available. Do I leave in or rinse out? Which conditioner is right for my hair type? How long do I leave it in for? How much should I use? To help us crack the code on hair conditioners we connected with Maya Smith, International Master of Natural Curls and founder of The Doux®, a haircare line created specifically for naturally curly hair which includes The Fresh Rinse® conditioner.

 

Below are the most common questions about hair conditioners with awesome insights and tips from Maya, where she lends over 2 decades of hands on experience as a stylist. 

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What are the benefits of a conditioner?

Conditioners help protect the hair from dryness and breakage by coating the hair shaft to help it retain moisture and softness. People tend to use it mainly for the added benefit of detangling hair however, it’s important to choose a conditioner that won’t weigh your hair down.

 

What are the benefits of a rinse?

A rinse unlike a conditioner doesn’t coat the cuticle of the hair. A rinse has a much thinner consistency and is in actuality a detangler. 

 

Do I use a leave in conditioner or a conditioning rinse?

You can use both if your hair is dry, course, or color treated, however, fine hair or hair that tends to be porous should stick to conditioner only.

 

Should everyone with curly or kinky hair use a conditioner?

Yes. Conditioners help maintain the hair’s elasticity, or its ability to stretch and expand without breaking, which is essential for curly hair.

 

How long do I leave in a conditioning rinse?

Follow the manufacturer’s instructions start there. Every formula is different, so you want to be sure to use the product as directed to avoid under or over-conditioning. You can always leave it in a bit longer or switch to another conditioner specifically for the result you want to achieve.

 

What’s the best water temperature to use when rinsing it?

I prefer luke-warm to cool water, because it help the cuticle of the hair close during the rinse, which makes the hair shiny and sleek.

 

How much conditioner should be used for every inch of hair?

It depends on the density, or thickness of the hair. Again, follow the manufacturer’s directions on how much to apply. Many suggest the amount of a quarter however if hair is thinner or really thick you may need more or less.

 

What are some ingredients that can weigh hair down?

Oils and certain types of silicones can weigh hair down. However, some formulas include these ingredients intentionally, because of the smoothing effect that they create on the hair. This is why it’s important not to leave it in too long and to make sure to get it all out unless it’s a leave in conditioner.

What ingredients should be avoided?

I’m not a fan of petroleum jelly, or mineral oil. There’s a lot of controversy surrounding silicone, but what most people don’t know is that silicones get a really bad rap because they’re commonly associated with silicones found in products that aren’t made for your hair. Cosmetic-grade silicones like dimethicone actually creates slip, protects the hair from breakage, and helps the hair shaft retain moisture during the styling process. 

 

What about conditioners for color-treated hair?

Some ingredients can break down artificial pigment in the hair, causing it to fade, look dull, or turn brassy. Make sure that the label says that the product is color-safe. You certainly want to switch to products formulated for color treated hair.

 

Can I dilute a regular conditioner with water and use it as a detangler?

You can, however, I recommend opting for a product that was intended to be a leave-in conditioner. This will help you avoid unnecessary build-up. Some people like to put a leave in conditioner mixed with water in a spray bottle and add it to their beach bag. After swimming they spray it in to make hair easier to comb through.

 

What are some mistakes people make when using a leave in or a rise out conditioner?

Over-conditioning is the most common mistake, because too much coating on the hair can cause dryness, brittleness, and ultimately breakage. Make sure you’re not leaving a conditioner in longer than 3 minutes unless the manufacturer instructs you to do so. 

The Doux’s Fresh Rinse Conditioner, sold at Target for $12.99, addresses the need for deep nourishment for wavy, curly or kinky hair without heaviness or build up. 

Why Everyone Needs to See Sprinter

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“We had a chance to make a new wave,” the producer of the film Sprinter Rob Maylor said. “We don’t get to tell stories like this. We don’t have ‘Napoleon Dynamites.’”

When Sprinter hits movie theaters, the safest thing to do is to expect the unexpected. This isn’t the cliche gangsta film packed with sage wisdom and action. This is a film that captures a culture that is seldom showcased in films that are supposed to capture Jamaican culture. Sprinter at its core is a film about growth, healing and family.

“We wanted to capture the modern Caribbean family,” Sprinter film director, Storm Saulter said. “There are a lot of underlying themes keeping families apart and we wanted to show that. The big part is knowing what you are running for.”

Sprinter follows Akeem, a 17-year-old Jamaican track athlete who is on track to qualify for the national youth team and go to the World Youth Championships in Los Angeles. Once there, Akeem hopes to reunite with his mother, who immigrated to the United States 10 years ago, with aspirations of providing a better life for her family.

The formula is a hit. The film received back-to-back wins, including best director, best narrative and the audience award at American Black Film Festival.

TANK AND THE BANGAS SIGN TO VERVE FORECAST

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Breakout New Orleans-based five-piece Tank and The Bangas are signing a record deal with Verve Forecast. Of the signing, president and CEO Danny Bennett says, “You only have to experience Tank and the Bangas perform live to understand why they are exploding on the music scene worldwide and why they are on everyone’s short list of artists to watch. Their artistry makes it crystal clear what the future of music has in store and embodies everything that the Verve Label Group hopes to achieve. We are honored and proud that they are part of our family.”

Verve Forecast is the home for eclectic and non-jazz facing artists on the Verve Label Group (Universal Music Group) roster. Initially created in 1964 as Verve Folkways, Forecast has been the home to artists as legendary and varied as Tim Hardin, Richie Havens, John Lee Hooker, Elvis Costello, Susan Tedeschi and now Tank and the Bangas and Yuna, among others.

Additionally, the band will release Live Vibes—an exclusive Record Store Day limited edition record pressed on yellow vinyl—on Saturday, April 21. Recorded live at Gasa Gasa in New Orleans in 2017, the recording makes fans feel like they are in the front row of one of the best live shows around. Live Vibes comes packaged in a die cut jacket and features a very special custom color print found in the interior of the jacket.

The band will take their lauded live show on the road this spring, confirming an extensive run of North American dates. The shows include stops at Los Angeles’ Fonda Theatre, New Orleans’ Tipitinas, San Francisco’s The Fillmore, Nashville’s The Basement East and Denver’s historic RedRocks Amphitheatre as well as festival appearances at Coachella, SXSW, Newport Folk, Hangout, BottleRock and more. See below for complete tour details. Additionally, they are currently touring in Australia and will tour Europe this summer.

Tank and the Bangas unanimously won NPR’s Tiny Desk contest with “Quick,” a riotous single they released in 2017, which Bob Boilen proclaimed, “This band combines R&B with hip-hop’s poetry and rollercoaster storytelling, with a flair and alchemy that could only come from New Orleans.” There’s more new music to come as the group works on the follow-up to their debut album, Think Tank.

The band’s ongoing evolution involves more than just music—lead vocalist and songwriter Tarriona “Tank” Ball continues to grow and develop as a performer and writer. Even back in the open-mic days, she was a force of nature. “I don’t know if there’s such a thing as too free, but it was totally uninhibited. She was inspired,” Norman Spence (synth keys, bass) says, laughing at the memory. More recently, Ball has become less of a dervish onstage—“I was running around so much I didn’t have time to sing at all,” she say—while finding new ways of expressing herself as a writer.

The band have performed with acts such as Lianne La Havas, PJ Morton, Galactic, Big Freedia, The Revivalists, Lyfe Jennings and The Soul Rebels while making major festival appearances at Bonnaroo, Austin City Limits, Jazz Fest, Pickathon, Hullabaloo and more.
Tank and The Bangas are Ball, Spence, Merell Burkett (keyboards), Joshua Johnson (drums) and Albert Allenback (alto saxophone, flute).

LIVE VIBES TRACKLIST
1. Not Mr. Rodgah’s Neighborhood (1:12)
2. Quick (8:11)
3. X’s (5:04)
4. Ripperton Love (7:21)
5. Boxes and Squares (7:41)
6. Twice (All Wayz) (8:33)

TANK AND THE BANGAS LIVE
March 7—Sydney, Australia—Oxford Art Factory
March 8— Adelaide, Australia—WOMADelaide
March 11—Auckland, New Zealand—Festival Playground Music Arena
March 15—Austin, TX—The Gatsby
March 16—Austin, TX—Hotel San Jose
April 5—Houston, TX—White Oak Music Hall
April 6—Dallas, TX—Club Dada
April 7—Austin, TX—THE SCOOT INN
April 10—Santa Fe, NM—Santa Fe Brewing Co.
April 11—Tucson, AZ—191 toole
April 12 & 13—Indio, CA—Coachella
April 17—Solana Beach, CA—Belly Up Tavern
April 18—Los Angeles, CA—Fonda Theatre
April 20—Indio, CA—Coachella
April 21—Charleston, SC—High Water Festival
April 27—New Orleans, LA—Tipitinas
April 28—Oxford, MS—Double Decker Arts Festival
May 4—New Orleans, LA—The Civic Theatre
May 6—Memphis, TN—Beale Street Music Festival
May 9—Louisville, KY—Headliners Music Hall
May 11—Richmond, VA—Brown’s Island
May 12—Saxapahaw, NC—New River Ballroom
May 13—Asheville, NC—The Grey Eagle
May 15—Charlotte, NC—Visulite Theatre
May 16—Knoxville, TN—U.S. Cellular Stage at the Bijou Theatre
May 17—Nashville, TN—The Basement East
May 18—Atlanta, GA—Terminal West
May 19—Gulf Shores, AL—Hangout Music Festival
May 24—San Francisco, CA—The Fillmore
May 25—Napa, CA—BottleRock Napa Valley
May 27—George, WA—Sasquatch! Festival
June 15—Bergen, Norway—Bergenhus Festning
June 29—Ewijk, Netherlands—De Groene Heuvels
July 7—Copenhagen, Denmark—Pumpehuset
July 28—Newport, RI—Newport Folk Festival
August 22—Denver, CO—Red Rocks Amphitheatre

The Power Issue

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Taylor Moxey is a force. She first appeared on our radar as a result of her culinary achievements with baking in particular. In the time that her brand has evolved, we have witnessed a philanthropist, a modern dancer, and a book author emerge proudly proclaiming after conquering each endeavor that girls can do anything. Armed with sincere confidence and two supportive parents (Fabia and Vernon) the sky is the limit for Taylor. Read more in our latest compact issue.

The Power of Belief

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Courtney Alexander is guided by faith and her ancestors. Armed with creativity, talent and intuition she has created a Tarot deck that has taken the world of divination by storm

She did it her way and on her own. Courtney Alexander is the creator of the Dust II Onyx Melanated Tarot that literally every creative person has been talking about. The artwork, the reading spreads, the concept, the fundraising and the mailing out process were all executed with minimal assistance. It is a story that tugs at the heartstrings of any entrepreneur. Fueled by supernatural talent and assistance, the idea of Dust II Onyx was manifested and made available to the masses by the support that Courtney courted from strangers on her Kickstarter platform.  She successfully raised $29,870 with 531 backers. While there were delays, what materialized in the hands of her supporters, myself included, was well worth the wait.

“I was doing the work of seven or more people on my own. There were delays in getting the cards out but I wanted to do it right. I was so grateful. I wanted people to feel like the investment was worth it. I felt like, ‘I only got one shot.’”

Despite understandable delays, Courtney executed a Tarot deck that can only be described as exceptional even if tarot is not your thing. The first edition is already sold out. The cards feature 77 mixed media collage paintings accented with metallic and holographic foils, featuring cultural myths, symbolism, history and icons within the Black Diaspora. The guidebook features multiple keyword lists (numerological, elemental and astrological) and full color images of the artwork with unique titles and art descriptions. Each card has been carefully researched with nearly 75 resources cited, providing a wealth of educational material. And while she is enjoying the success of a completely sold out deck that is being praised on every media platform, she is already focused on what comes next.

“It’s still surreal. I’m seeing videos of people enjoying the cards. I feel very grateful. But there is still work to do.”

The Power of Giving Back

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Perched away in paradise  West Palm Beach’s nationally renowned philanthropist, Karin Taylor’s, jaw-dropping Weisberg Stables in Jupiter, FL is a 20-acre home to over 150 animals including: mustangs, pigs, rabbits, guinea pigs, chickens, tortoises, goats, miniature donkeys, ponies, emus, and even wallabies. Karin is making a difference in the lives of those with special needs, foster children, veterans, and at-risk youth through her profound equestrian therapy programs, sensory petting zoo, farm tours, and horse riding lessons/clinics.

“Our family philosophy is that everything you are given is meant to be shared.” Karin said.

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One of Karin’s most celebrated programs is called Unbridled Power, a one of a kind equine assisted learning horse therapy program that focuses on helping veterans, disabled youth, and children develop critical life skills. Equine assisted learning is a remarkable learning approach that promotes the development of essential life skills through groundwork activities using horses as the teacher. This type of therapy has been proven to be more effective than talk therapy, and is especially beneficial for children with Autism.

This spring, Karin will be offering chickens to local nursing homes who would like to have a community coop for their residents. Karin’s hope with her estate’s programming is that it will inspire other local farmers to open up their land to those in need.